What is healthy?

For a long time I have said "I just want to be healthy". Before I would use my weight as the number that would decide if I was healthy or not. According to the BMI standards not am I obese but I am morbidly obese. Dang that sucks right? But when those numbers are taken out of the determination of being healthy it takes some thought to figure out what healthy is. My husband has been basically in shape his entire life. He doesn't exercise in over a year but still has defined muscle tone. It makes me angry! Well not really its nice to have a good looking husband. But it would be nice to be in that kind of shape all the time. My husband tells me all the time that he doesn't care how much I weigh he just wants me to be healthy. But at the same time he tells me that being healthy is being at a certain weight.


I guess I need to back up some and explain some things. My depression, anxiety and being overweight got to be so bad that it split my husband and I up. Of course he had a lot of issues too and was in no way perfect. So we have been separated for over 2 years. We go back and forth about getting back together but my weight is the biggest issue (pun intended). I don't think he is trying to be mean spirited about telling me I am over weight but he doesn't want me to have the same problems that my family members have. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, CAD, are just some of the things that he doesn't want me to get. And we have four kids he just wants me to live longer but it all comes back to my weight. Losing the weight would help with a lot of those if not all.


Do I think that it is possible to be overweight and be healthy at the same time? Absolutely. Would I ever tell my husband that. No way. I think if I am eating a balanced healthy meal, exercising regularly, able to control my stress and anxiety then it shouldn't matter what the scale says. But telling that to someone who always looks good is tough.


So what is your definition of healthy if it isn't your BMI or what's on the scale?